DECORATION DAY

                                   

Photo by Chris 1974

Decoration Day, now called Memorial Day, is a day to decorate the graves of our fallen U.S. military heroes.  A federal holiday, it is celebrated  on the last Monday of May. Many events are planned each year.  In Spokane there are a number to attend. Here is the link to the story in the Spokesman Review.

One year, after my dad passed, daughter Heather and son-in-law Jessie drove to the military cemetery to check out the head stone and to leave a flower. Unbeknownst to them my bother Wayne and his wife Mary drove out also. 

A North Carolinian high school classmate decorated the grave of my brother when she discovered his grave was in the same cemetery as her husband's grandparents. Jay was in the Army for 4 years. 

 One family friend,Nan, faithfully visited the graves of loved ones on Memorial Day.

Dave, Nora, Nan 1995

I say a great big--"Thank you for your service" to every veteran.

Psalm 144: 1 Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle;

LIBERTY AND CONSCIENCE

 

I thought that Chris and I would be the only people in the United States who had never come down with covid.  It was not to be.  In March, after the office crew at our complex came down with covid, Chris tested positive.  Aside from having his vertigo act up and ending up on the bathroom floor and couldn't get up, and me having to call 911, he didn't feel ill. Of course then I came down with it.  Chris and I both panicked.  I ended up going to the emergency room to be sure I didn't have something else on top of it.  I was just fine. So in light of the decisions to be made about whether to get a flu vaccine or a covid vaccine--  liberty and conscience are up for discussion.

The small pox vaccine was given regularly to children in the 1900's.  My mom and her sisters were born in 1915, 1917, and 1926. Grandpa did not approve of vaccines so his girls were opted out.  

But back in the 1700's smallpox constituted a crisis.  Opinions varied.  Here is one discussion by BenPurves a pastor at Occoquan Bible Church in Woodbridge, VA. Ben joined OBC’s staff in 2008. He has a B.A. from Multnomah Bible College (Portland, OR), an M.A. from Capital Bible Seminary (Lanham, MD), and is a D.Min. student at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (Louisville, KY) where he is working on a research thesis examining the Protestant plague ethic from the 1500-1700s. The Lord has blessed Ben and his wife Ricki with three children whom they are homeschooling.:

"Inoculation Controversy: Cotton Mather, Jonathan Edwards, and John Newton

The same year that Cotton Mather began inoculations in Boston, his father Increase Mather published a pamphlet entitled Several Reasons Proving that Inoculating or Transplanting the Small Pox is a Lawful Practice, and that it has been Blessed by GOD for the Saving of Many a Life.2 In this work the elder Mather sought to discredit the death of an inoculation patient, and argued that inoculation was a way of keeping the sixth commandment. While equating “You shall not murder” to “get inoculated,” he resorted to using shame and attacking the reputation of those who opposed inoculation. He caricatured those who were “fierce Enemies to Inoculation” as “Children of the Wicked one.” Instead of being associated with such persons, he argued for his audience to join with such worthy persons as himself and the other pastors who supported inoculation, which included Solomon Stoddard of Northampton. Despite these tactics, it is surprising to note that Increase Mather did not want anyone to receive inoculation contrary to conscience, but instead for them to be persuaded to change their minds.

As inoculation was first introduced, there was significant opposition in the medical community and in the church. Multiple pastors preached against it, such as William Douglass who condemned those who received inoculation as being guilty of a sinful distrust of God, though he would change his mind in later years. Mather also faced violence as a bomb was thrown through the window of his house on November 13, 1721, with the attached note: “Cotton Mather, you dog, dam[n] you! I’ll inoculate you with this; and a pox to you.”3

In response to opposition, a Bostonian pastor by the name of William Cooper wrote a pastoral letter entitled A reply to the objections made against taking the small pox in the way of inoculation from principles of conscience. Cooper’s letter makes the case for allowing inoculation as a legitimate means to avoid suffering and preserve life. He rejected the legalism of pastors who sought to prohibit inoculation, and called for freedom of conscience in choosing or refusing inoculation.4

One particular moment that is worth noting during a subsequent smallpox outbreak is the death of Jonathan Edwards. On March 22, 1758, Edwards died after receiving the smallpox inoculation. This is chronicled by his great-grandson, Sereno Edwards Dwight, in The Works of President Edwards with a Memoir of His Life. Dwight provides a narrative of Edward’s careful consideration of inoculation and his seeking of counsel before receiving the treatment that caused his death.5 Edwards and multiple family members received the inoculation believing that it was a wise course of action, while entrusting themselves to the Lord. Edwards’ daughter Esther, who was also inoculated, died shortly after her father.

Controversy continued in New England, and also back in London. On July 8, 1772, Edmund Massey preached a sermon at St. Andrew’s Holborn of London entitled A sermon against the dangerous and sinful practice of inoculation.6 This text was republished and circulated in Boston, with Massey denouncing inoculation as a dangerous and sinful attempt to escape God’s judgment or to avoid the testing of one’s faith. Instead of receiving inoculation, Massey argued that one should trust the Lord. In addition to this, Massey argued that medical practitioners are assuming the role of God in intentionally giving the disease to their patients.

John Newton and Liberty of Conscience

As questions of conscience continued with this debate, John Newton wrote a letter of pastoral counsel addressing the ethics of whether or not one should receive inoculation. Instead of taking a position, he offered balanced counsel and argued for the individual to make a decision based upon faith, whether it be to receive inoculation or not, and for all to entrust themselves into the Lord’s providential care.7

In reading multiple sermons and letters from this period, opposing sides of the inoculation debate would manipulate Scripture to advocate for their position, sometimes with both sides using the sixth commandment to argue their case. In contrast to these polar opposites were the voices that appealed to Romans 14 and viewed inoculation as an issue of the liberty of conscience. Over time, this conviction gathered momentum. Instead of a false dilemma between faith and medical care, the emerging consensus was that one could receive the inoculation in faith, and that inoculation was a lawful and legitimate use of means to remove oneself from the harm of the smallpox. Though one’s interpretation of Scripture and medical data might shape one’s decision on whether or not to receive inoculation, the decision must still be made in light of one’s conscience.

Though the controversy surrounding inoculation would subside as the practice became more widely accepted in medicine and in the church, many are faced with similar questions regarding the COVID vaccine today. John Newton’s letter of pastoral counsel regarding smallpox inoculation easily bridges the gap from the past to the present, and it contains wise counsel for today. While Newton was not an advocate for inoculation, he advocated for liberty of conscience while calling his audience to trust the Lord.

Read the full text of Newton’s letter below:

June 3, 1777

Dear Sir,

It seems I must write something about the small-pox, but I know not well what: having had it myself, I cannot judge how I would feel if I were actually exposed to it. I am not a professed advocate for inoculation; but if a person who fears the Lord should tell me, I think I can do it in faith, looking upon it as a salutary expedient, which God in his providence has discovered, and which therefore appears my duty to have recourse to, so that my mind does not hesitate with respect to the lawfulness, nor am I anxious about the event; being satisfied, that whether I live or die, I am in that path in which I can cheerfully expect his blessing; I do not know that I could offer a word by way of dissuasion.

If another person should say, My times are in the Lord’s hands; I am now in health, and am not willing to bring upon myself a disorder, the consequences of which I cannot possibly foresee. If I am to have the small-pox, I believe he is the best judge of the season and manner in which I shall be visited, so as may be most for his glory and my own good; and therefore I choose to wait his appointment, and not to rush upon even the possibility of danger without a call. If the very hairs of my head are numbered, I have no reason to fear that, supposing I receive the smallpox in a natural way, I shall have a single pimple more than he sees expedient; and why should I wish to have one less? Nay, admitting, which however is not always the case, that inoculation might exempt me from some pain and inconvenience, and lessen the apparent danger, might it not likewise, upon that very account, prevent my receiving some of those sweet consolations which I humbly hope my gracious Lord would afford me, if it were his pleasure to call me to a sharp trial? Perhaps the chief design of this trying hour, if it comes, may be to show me more of his wisdom, power, and love, than I have ever yet experienced. If I could devise a means to avoid the trouble, I know not how great a loser I may be in point of grace and comfort. Nor am I afraid of my face; it is now as the Lord, has made it, and it will be so after the small-pox. If it pleases him, I hope it will please me. In short, though I do not censure others, yet, as to myself, inoculation is what I dare not venture upon. If I did venture, and the outcome should not be favorable, I would blame myself for having attempted to take the management out of the Lord’s hands into my own, which I never did yet in other matters, without finding I am no more able than I am worthy to choose for myself. Besides, at the best, inoculation would only secure me from one of the innumerable natural evils the flesh is heir to; I should still be as liable as I am at present to a putrid fever, a bilious colic, an inflammation in the bowels, or in the brain, and a thousand formidable diseases which are hovering round me, and only wait his permission to cut me off in a few days or hours: and therefore I am determined, by his grace, to resign myself to his disposal. Let me fall into the hands of the Lord, (for his mercies are great,), and not into the hands of men.

If a person should talk to me in this strain, most certainly I could not say, Notwithstanding all this, your safest way is to be inoculated.

We preach and hear, and I hope we know something of faith, as enabling us to trust the Lord with our souls. I wish we had all more faith to trust him with our bodies, our health, our provision, and our temporal comforts likewise. The former should seem to require the strongest faith of the two. How strange is it, that when we think we can do the greater, we should be so awkward and unskillful when we aim at the less!

Give my love to your friend. I dare not advise; but if she can quietly return at the usual time, and neither run intentionally into the way of the small-pox, nor run out of the way, but leave it simply with the Lord, I shall not blame her. And if you will mind your praying and preaching, and believe that the Lord can take care of her without any of your contrivances, I shall not blame you. Nay, I shall praise him for you both. My prescription is to read Dr. Watts, Psa. cxxi. every morning before breakfast, and pray it over until the cure is effected. Probatum est.

Hast thou not giv’n thy word,
To save my soul from death?
And I can trust my Lord
To keep my mortal breath.
I’ll go and come,
Nor fear to die,
Till from on high
Thou call me home.

Adieu!

Pray for Yours, &c.

Newton’s application of the doctrine of liberty of conscience is gracious and charitable,"

My prayer for this coming flu season is that liberty and respect for conscience will prevail.  What is your COVID story?

I Corinthians 10:29 I do not mean your conscience, but his. For why should my liberty be determined by someone else's conscience? 30 If I partake with thankfulness, why am I denounced because of that for which I give thanks? 30 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.  

BEST COMMENCEMENT SPEECHES

1961 GHS grad

Do you remember the commencement speech given at your graduation?  I don't either.  My dad did not attend his graduation from the U. of W. back in 1936 because he had to work.  His mother did. If I find the program I will add it later. If I find my Groveton program I'll add that too.  

So in thinking about good advice for graduates I'd like to put in my 2 cents. Pray first.  Then act. Here are some commencement speeches which may be helpful. 

Harvard Address by Aleksander Solzhenitsyn - 'A World Split Apart' (English Reading)

This may be the best commencement speech but it is sad as David Foster Wallace committed suicide.

Dana Perino, graduate of  CSU Pueblo.  Her speech rang true with me.

 

“If you’re born here, you already won life’s great lottery. You are American, you are loved, you are educated, and you get to make decisions,” Perino said.

Perino told the students that they have a duty to their families and communities to stay aligned with their values.

“You have to learn, how do you decide how you want to spend your day? How do you want to take care of yourself?”  Perino elaborated. “How do you want to make sure that you are doing the best that you can for yourself, for your families, and for your communities?”

The former White House Press Secretary emphasized that integrity is the most important asset an individual could have, despite the costs it might have.

“[Integrity is] the most valuable asset. And you have the responsibility to protect it at all costs. And that might cost you some things along the way. It could cost you friendships,” she explained. “It might cost you a job. It might cost you something that you would never want to give up that you think

“But if you compromise on your integrity, you will lose your most important and valuable asset,” Perino added.

“Take your education, the fact that you’re American, your personal integrity, and go out there and show us what how you’re going to do it,” the “America’s Newsroom” co-host concluded. “I am honored to be here.”

CSU Pueblo President Timothy Mottet praised Perino’s speech and awarded her a honorary doctorate at the end. 

“Our mission statement at CSU Pueblo is helping students navigate a rapidly changing world, something that I think a lot about.” Mottet said. “And I think her message reflected how she has managed a rapidly changing world… it’s a good model for the rest of us to follow.”

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 Ecclesiastes 2: 24 There is nothing better for a person than that he should eat and drink and find enjoyment in his toil. This also, I saw, is from the hand of God, 25 for apart from him who can eat or who can have enjoyment? 26 For to the one who pleases him God has given wisdom and knowledge and joy, but to the sinner he has given the business of gathering and collecting, only to give to one who pleases God. This also is vanity and a striving after wind.

BIRTHDAY CAKES AND YOU AND ME

I was very pleased with the cake my mom made me for my 5th birthday.

 

One time when my cousin Dorothy and I were teens, and visiting our grandparents on their farm in Eastern Washington, we found a cake mix in their kitchen and whipped up a cake.  Can't remember if we baked it in the wood stove oven or not. Maybe they had an electric stove by then. Grandma remarked, "Who is having a birthday?" Apparently ingredients were so scare in the past that cakes were only made for birthdays.

Growing up we made an effort to celebrate birthdays with a cake. Because my birthday was in the summer after school was out I didn't always get a cake.  Some summers we waited to celebrate my birthday until we arrived in Spokane after driving from Virginia to Washington. My Aunt Jeanne or Aunt Evelyn would provide a cake.  

Now we have some wonderful creative cake bakers in our family.  We have celebrated lots of birthdays with amazing cakes. 

This cake may have used 3 cake mixes.

Volcano cake by Chris.

Cake with raspberries.

Sponge cake.

Samantha trying to climb up the cupboard to get the Happy Birthday Jesus cake.

Chocolate cupcakes.

Lots of candles.

Cake by Jessica.

Cake by Jessica.

Cake for Chris.

By Samantha.

Cake for ?

By Jessica.

By Jessica.

Some of us like to shop at Walmart. Cake by Samantha.

Cake by Sabrina.

Rocky road cake by Samantha.

Tier cake by Samantha.

Cake by Jessica.

Cake by Jessica.

Chocolate ganoche cake by Samantha.

Many people would choose ice-cream over cake.  Our son Jes likes pie for his birthday.  My brother Wayne prefers bread pudding.  What do you like for your birthday? 

Ecclesiastes 5:18  Behold, what I have seen to be good and fitting is to eat and drink and find enjoyment in all the toil with which one toils under the sun the few days of his life that God has given him, for this is his lot. 

GOD'S LOVE

 

Photo by Chris.  Tierra del Mar, Oregon 2003.  Shutterstock rejected this one for sale but I Stock accepted it.

For some reason I knew God loved me no matter what.  The majority of people do not believe this. Maybe I believed this because my mom taught me that I was perfect.  She treated each one of us like we were only children.  Maybe it was because she had to be perfect so her children had to be perfect.  After attending church camp when I was 15 I realized that I was not perfect.   Here is a CRU article I think all young people should read about God’s love.  Click on the link to open.  Do you believe that God loves you?

I Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO KNOWS ALL ABOUT YOU AND STILL LOVES YOU

 

Mike 1993

We lost a former neighbor and great friend of over 50 years on Sunday, April 16.    Mike suddenly left us.  Donna called to let us know he had passed in his sleep. Mike and Donna were our neighbors when we were all young and living on the same street in Spokane.  There were three families with children who were not yet school age.  But then Mike and Donna moved away.  Then our other friends Jim and Carmen moved.  We were the last to move.  However we kept in touch.  Years later, when we were empty nesters, we started coming from 3 states to spend time together. We had at least 7 reunions over the last 30 years. 

It was about in 1993 when our boat was anchored in Anacortes that Mike, Donna and Jim and Carmen showed up.  The plan was to day cruise and sleep on the boat.  We were able to go sailing one day.  Here are some pictures.

Donna, Mike, and Chris

Chris, Mike, Jim

Donna, Bobbi, Carmen

As I recall Jim and Carmen, Donna and Mike arrived in Woodinville in 1994 and we all enjoyed our hot tub together. 

Jim, Carm, Mike, Donna, Bobbi, Chris

Then it was off to Ashland, Oregon in 1996.

Donna, Jim, Bobbi, Chris, Carm, Mike. We enjoyed going out to eat.

Chris, Bobbi

Donna, Chris, Carmen, Mike, Jim

Carm and Jim were moving back east so we gifted them with a rubber chicken. There is a chicken joke we share but I'm not allowed to tell it!

In July of 1997 Mike, Donna, Jim, and Carm joined us in Friday Harbor.  Donna brought hats, noses with glasses.

Chis is half there due to random stranger who took the picture. 

Roche Harbor -- Mike,Donna, Bobbi, Chris, Carm, Jim

Carmen's dream was a trip to Aruba.  Jim made all the arrangements.  When we received a package in the mail we assumed it was info on our trip.  We opened the package and it was the rubber chicken! We couldn't stop laughing. That April in 2001we all converged on an all inclusive resort. 

Mike, Carmen, and Chris took advantage of the hot tub.

Buffet and different restaurant meals were the best. Mike, Carm, Bobbi, Chris Jim, Donna.

The more physically fit went snorkeling.  The beach was wind swept but dry.  When Chris and I went back on a cruise several years later the area was flooded. 

The mall had no elevator.  

We had reunions on the Oregon Coast at Tierra del Mar.  Carm and Jim would rent a house and bring a carload of food and we would all sleep in the 2 bedrooms and on couches.  The last year we got together each couple rented their own house.  

Mike, Jim, and Chris

Another good restaurant.  Jim, Carm, Donna, Mike, Chris, Bobbi

Donna and Mike cooked and we posed with our noses and glasses.

Upon hearing the news about Mike's passing, Chris said, "We lost one of the good guys." Mike, Donna, Jim, and Carm are friends who have accepted us no matter our faults.  Mike and Donna stopped by in November of 2022.  Last time to see Mike and catch up.  We are so thankful for the years together.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

SPORTS DO NOT BUILD CHARACTER. THEY REVEAL IT.

 

Granddaughter Samantha. Photo by Chris 2010.

"Mom, it's only Tee-Ball."  Samantha let her mom know she didn't have to worry.  Her brother, Andrew, was involved with more professional ball, but that didn't mean her mom had to get stressed about her game.

Today most of children's sports are organized.  Many children drop out by age 11.  Maybe this is because our society has gone from teaching sportsmanship to encouraging wins at any cost.  Ted Kuck,  a 2008 Michigan Notable Book Award winner for his football memoir, Paper Tiger: One Athlete’s Journey to the Underbelly of Pro Football, says this--"The point was that like many other things in our culture, competition has grown increasingly acrimonious and joyless and broken over the last couple of decades. Blame social media or trash talking or legalized gambling or the lack of scarcity or youth sports insanity or the politicization of sports—all of which are real and bad—but sports are just less fun and more regularly blown out of proportion than they used to be."  This statement rings true.

Granddaughter Natalie. Photo by Chris 20017.

It's fun to win but at what cost? Everyone likes to win.  I didn't participate in sports in school though. I didn't enjoy competition.  Even though I ended up majoring in P.E. in college I took all individual sports.  Many kids like to play on sports teams but not with stress and anxiety.  Maybe we need to go back to fewer organized sports. 

In the Christian life the Bible tells us in I Corinthians 9:24 "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it." Matthew 10:16 says “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves." 

We must run the race to win but also to be clever. This is speaking of our spiritual lives of course but we can also apply it to competition. I loved it when we played co-ed frisbee football.  Chris was a master at strategy.  We won the games. 

My prayer is that churches will start family ball teams to compete in friendly ways.  Our church invites the neighbor kids to play in our wonderful gym on Wednesday nights in the hope that they will stay for youth groups after. 

For more information about kids and schools check out this .

I like things when they are not perfect because that means there is less pressure on me.  My question is--  when is it important to be competitive and  perfectionistic? Are some people met to excel and others to just stay middle of the road? What do you think?

I Corinthians 12:4-6 4 Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; 5 and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord; 6 and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who empowers them all in everyone.